color scheme and ideas

I have always seen these types of collages on other websites. But I didn't quite know how they were done. Then I stumbled across someone's blog and the collage stated it was made on bridal canvas dot com. I decided to try it and like it. It was pretty straightforward, allowed me to upload my own pictures, and had a decent variety of stock, real wedding photos I could use.
This is what I visualize.

:(

does wedding planning have to be this depressing? Why does the industry overwhelm us with their stuff, their requirements, all their assumptions?

When you look at DJ websites, they have a list of things you are supposed to do:

• couples first dance
• father daughter dance
• mother son dance
• garter belt toss
• bouquet toss (a big opportunity to try and irritate all unmarried women in the room under a certain age)
  

suppose someone's mother couldn't be there for whatever reason? Suppose someone doesn't get along with their father? Anyone whose situation is different is made to feel like a flat out weirdo. You had a wedding, except. . . [insert exception to the rule]. Suppose you want to carry a copy of your favorite poetry book with a single flower attached, instead of a bouquet--could you toss that?

As for bridesmaids--you must have them. How could you not? And you have to have between 6 and 10 of them and they must all dress the same. Or else you won't really be married.

I'm tired. Grumpy. I'm not really feeling this. I'm really feeling an elopement right now.

Bad Influences

It is easy for people to begin thinking the wrong things about the people they care most about even if they aren't trying to do that. Well let me be clear. Some men can be pigs. Some men want to be in charge of their lady all of the time so that they can boost their own egos. They like to talk big around other men. I thought that I wasn't buying into all of that crap but it must have gotten into my system through osmosis because at times I know that I began to be a jerk to my fiancee with the I must be in charge bit. I did not even know that it was happening but slowly it began to happen and it occurred with more frequency over time. I have since stopped hanging around with that person and I am proud to say that my system is being purged of the "bacon" thoughts. Well I am learning to appreciate what God has given me and going back to my original thought that when two people are in a relationship those two people should treat one another as equals. I can't wait to get married. I can't wait to start dancing with her too : )

An idea

I thought we could do this for our tables--instead of numbers--each fruit of the spirit:

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.


Another option is to put up pics of ourselves over the years


Yet another option is just to use numbers--hey, if it ain't broke. . .

Scream

Remember the song by Michael Jackson? I don't remember if it was a duet with sister Janet but it went something like "I just can't take it no more, stop pressuring me, you make me want to scream"!

People need to chill with the pressure! Every now and again I'll run into someone who will want to know about invites. Did you send out invitations? How many people are you having? blah blah blah. Why are they stressing me like that? It's totally not necessary.

The rule of thumb is to send out the invitations six to eight weeks before you need a headcount. Eight weeks is 2 months. If we need a headcount August1, (which we don't), then that would be the invites should go out maybe the last day of May. It's still April. It's not even tax day yet. What is with people?!

The other interesting thing is that some people who are being asked to do a) b) or c) were asking asking asking for info. Now that I've sent it (both a warning email and a letter by the post office)--I can't figure out if they received it or not. Out of 4 people contacted, only 1 said, "hey, I got it". Another I just broke down and called because I just couldn't quite get over it.

And now on to another topic: rudeness.

Stop me if I've blogged this before.
I have shared a photo of my dress on my blog. It's no big deal to me. However, for lots of people, it's supposed to be a mystery until the day of. . .
I emailed a cousin of mine who I felt I could talk to--I shared with her some of my little jitters, and also included a pic of my dress--this was a while back. Rather than reply, she hit forward and sent it to both her sisters. Up to now she has not responded to my email but both her sisters contact me about it on facebook offering their advice and comments.

It was months ago, but I'm still mad. Yeeesh.

Always there

Let me start out by saying, yes I'm speaking in absolutes. I believe that God has blessed me with a very special lady to be my future wife. At the end of the last work week, I felt that I couldn't tell her everything or anything for that matter because I did not want to burden her with all what was happening at my work place. I felt bad about talking about my problem because of 1) I'm not the only person who is going through a period of uncertainty on the job and 2) she might not want to hear this especially heading towards the weekend. You know what she listened to me and gave me the right advice without being overly aggressive with her views and positions. I know now more than ever that we have something really special and this is truly the lady for me. Oh yeah we just made another payment for our venue. On the topic of the venue; we really chose the perfect place.

finally--information about the wedding

Hi Ladies,
please be on the lookout for an actual letter in the mail from me regarding the wedding. I promise I am mailing it off today!!! I know I've been stalling. Some people have been asking about colors for the longest. Sorry. It seemed scary so I put it off.

But I've got a lot of ideas and links and stuff. I know the colors and I know exactly what kind of look and feel we are going for. So I wrote everything up and sent you a color sample (not a swatch but a paint chip) of the general palette I'm working with.

So basically, within the color scheme, I am giving you free reign. I don't want you to buy a dress you will never wear again. So let me know once you receive the letter if it is helpful or if it is too much freedom. If you want me to lock you in to an exact style/color/manufacturer, I can do that. But I really would rather not.

Hope all is well with you. Please let me know if you have any questions at all or need any info or anything. Anything. My number is ###-###-####. My email is obvious.

Take Care,


PS I have made an attachment of sort of what I have in mind. And also a pic of what my dress looks like. I know those models are a little scary-looking. But it's what's out there.